I’ve been thinking a lot about Lilah lately. She has really started showing her personality and it is completely different than the child I thought she was going to be last year. Lilah is stubborn as all hell, loving, silly, and so fiercely independent. I really thought I was devoting most of my time to Lilah these past two years, and in a way I was. She still demands a lot of physical attention like diaper changes, nap times, extra food prep, and being more hands-on at the playground. But, I know she wasn’t getting a lot of the perks of being a first child like Edith did. Most of her playdates have been her tagging along with Edith’s friends and going to activities that we had already set up for her sister. I know that she benefits so greatly from watching her sister but I really wanted to start making an effort to discover what interests she has, what classes she would like, and who she may want to develop friendships with.
I am so lucky we found Shannon. Not only is she my good friend, but our kids get along so well, which as we all know is this magical, rare, wonderful gift that you only run across a few times in this whole parenting gig. It means I get to engage and spend time having actual conversations with a friend while our kids run, play and enjoy each other’s company with little interference from us. And her son, Luke, is the complete object of Lilah’s affection (as I hinted before in this Instagram photo).
Shannon invited us over one day after school for some snacks and to play in the garden on one of the first really beautiful spring days we have seen lately in Brooklyn. She had the most delicious homemade muffins and farm fresh strawberries ready and I brought my Gathre midi mat over.
We had the best time catching up and watching these two lovebirds try and feed each other snacks, navigate sharing, and hand out kisses to each other like candy. I’m so grateful to have a friend who understands what it means to be a mom to two and trying to find the balance of giving equally to both of them. It is so easy to forget that even though I have been a mother for four years, I’ve only been Lilah’s mom for two, and I’m still learning everyday what she needs and that it may be completely different than what works for Edith. And Lilah definitely does her best to keep me on my toes!
I’m giving away a $40 shop credit to Gathre on my Instagram. Their bonded leather mats are the perfect companion to any playdate and I love bringing mine to the beach, Prospect Park, or even using it under the highchair when I know we are having an extra messy meal. Be sure to head over for all of the details on how to win. Good Luck!
Photos by Julia Elizabeth for Lucky Penny